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\\ "Adoption is about forming forever families—it shouldn’t be about “saving” children." //

Someone put this as their Facebook status recently and it really got me thinking.  


Does the world really think of adoption as "saving" children?  Because it's not.  We don't do it because "Oh, there are millions of orphans, and why not save one of them?"  It doesn't work like that.  It can't be like that, or your whole heart won't be in it.  


Then the question really remains; what is adoption about then?  Forming forever families - yes.  There are so many waiting children that are waiting for forever families.  Not to be saved.  To have a family.  In the website I talked about in this post, there are 18-year-olds that just want a forever family.  Just so they can have someone to love them when no one else cares.  It's not about finding their savior.  It's not about them waiting for a family to come pick them up and save them from their future of being unloved.  It's not like that.  And it can't be like that.  If it was, there wouldn't be a true heart for the orphan or for adoption. 


So next time you watch someone adopt, don't tell them they are so great because they "saved" that child.  They didn't save them.  They just gave that child a forever family.